Creative Tension-When Setting Your Goal

In my last post, I talked about the importance of Setting Goals the S-M-A-R-T way. using the 5 key factors  that will contribute to your Success.

To recap that important principle, here are the S-M-A-R-T guidelines:

S – Goals Should Be Specific

Express  your goal as the end state of what you want

i.e. I will be promoted to Vice President

M -Goals Should Be Measurable

As much as you can, be clear about what, specifically, you want to  achieve

A – Goals should be Achievable

A goal is not a fantasy or a daydream. It should be something you can accomplish (with some effort and stretching outside your “comfort zone”)

R  – Goals should be Relevant

Goals that you set should be relevant to you, to your

specific situation and to the larger Objectives you have set

T – Goals Should Have Target Dates (be Time Bound)

Give yourself time limits. Often you will have sub-goals with their own target dates. If you don’t make the target, don’t hate yourself- just set a new date.

Given your present life and circumstances, your goals should be lofty, or at least, a stretch. 

Once you’ve set them, you can feel anxiety, frustration and impatience when you don’t reach your targets. On the other hand, you can feel unsatisfied or bored when your goals are too easily achieved.

Success-oriented people are adaptable. As such a person you would adjust your goals downward when necessary or you would keep your high goal where it is, and intensify your movement towards it, rather than settle for a lesser goal. This adaptability will give you an increasing capability to live with a high degree of uncertainty and anxiety, without making unnecessary compromise. A certain amount of stress and tension is expected when we delay gratification.

Sadly, this practice is becoming increasingly rare in our society of “instant gratification”.

Success-oriented people push up toward their goal, and find that they are making progress towards the goal. rather than lower their goal to a level which is easier to reach.  Less motivated people may  settle for more reachable “substitute” goals. If, in the pursuit of those “lofty” goals, you’re willing to put up with a little anxiety and “creative tension” along the way, you are very likely to achieve your Goals.

No Pain No Gain

When the exercise instructor says “No pain, no gain”, she is not saying that pain is the goal, but that there is always some unavoidable price to pay for progress. However, whatever unpleasant side effects you may have during the process, they need not create a struggle or even slow down your progress. On the contrary, the ‘burn’ one experiences when exercising, for example, can act as a helpful barometer for judging one’s progress

The fear of discomfort is too easily a rationalization for making no effort at all. We will later call this type of person an ‘under-oriented’ person. Unpleasant side effects distract and discourage a poorly motivated person, but you can actually turn these side effects into opportunities. Then such striving for your goals takes your life from a level which is diffused like the light from an ordinary electric bulb, to a level which is powerful and concentrated (like a laser).

Wishing you a Fabulous and Successful 2018!

Elaina Zuker has taught seminars to executives, gives speeches and writes books, including  bestseller “7 Secrets of Influence”.   Her new  book, “A Swift Kick in the Can’ts – the New Peer Mentor Model for Success Now” is now available on Amazon and Amazon Kindle.

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